My husband and I have been going through a difficult time in our marriage and last week we had decided to call it quits, I even went to my mom's and stayed there a couple of days. While I was there my husband called and we talked about how we were going to divorce amicably for the sake of each other and our four children, and all that entails, because we love each other and wanted to have integrity even in divorce. Secretly I was hoping he would fight for our marriage, and you know what, he did! Shocked, is not a strong enough word for what I felt.
We spent the next couple of hours on the phone, talking about why we should make it work. After all, we both love each other and we have way more compelling reasons to stay together than we do to call it quits. So after talking and agreeing that we love each other too much to just end it, I came back home (the next day) and we have been working hard to communicate with each other and get this marriage back on track. We aren't going to give up on a 19 year marriage that has borne more joy than sorrow.
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| December 12, 1992 |
All this inactivity is driving me insane, I am used to moving all the time! It has been almost surreal, the fact that I am injured, it is just sinking in that my life has changed and will be changed for a long time. I still get sad when I see a runner, it hurts my heart because I love running so much. I miss that freedom and the feeling of strength. I will return to my beloved running, but until I do I will find other ways to keep fit and strong, for example, I will bike, swim and add in more weights to my fitness regime.
How are all of you? What have you been up to? Anyone run any races lately? Have you ever been injured and if so, what did you do in the meantime?
Godspeed...this comes from the Middle English expression "God spede (you)", a wish for success and fortune for one setting out on an enterprise, voyage, adventure, or travels. It may also mean good luck.
"Limitations only exist if you let them"
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I am so sorry about your marriage! It sounds like you two have got it together, though, that's something to be proud of. Hang in there, Love, and start riding that bike!
ReplyDeleteThinking of you during this challenging time :)
ReplyDeleteKeep stretching and swimming to heal that injury and keep working on the other.
Happy Monday!
I'm sorry to hear about your rough patch! But, I'm happy to hear that you are trying to make it work. I'm thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteI've not been married long, but I've tried to learn a lot from other people's relationships and marriages about what to do and what not to do pretty much my entire life.
ReplyDeleteI think the most important thing is understanding that marriage and each person in it is a dynamic, changing group of things and ever day we make small and large choices that either make things better or worse for us, for our spouse, and for the relationship between. Balancing those decisions and the times where some of those things are in direct conflict with one another is no easy task.
Glad to hear you're both starting to figure it out though. Sometimes you just have to stop and re-calibrate.
GL with you marriage. I went through the same thing after 19 yrs but we didn't fight hard enough. Fortunately we both re-married and are happy. I hope you heal quickly. It will never be fast enough. I know. When you run again, you will appreciate it even more than before.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your marriage, I hope you can solve soon all the problems and live with your husband happily. I would be lost without my wife (this is our 33° year together) so I can understand very well your feeling.
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